“When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”― Anne Morrow Lindbergh, from her book Gift from the Sea
We love so much and so deeply. I often forget that love does constantly change and that the change does not lessen the importance of love. There’s friends I haven’t spoken to in years and lovers from my past who are now in happy marriages; I still love them and know they love me. Maybe not in the exact way we once did but the bonds of a love that’s true don’t get broken overnight. Let go and let love into your life, in whatever form it might take at this moment. Bask in the fact that you are loved and that you can share love. Maybe not the way you have envisioned, but truly, you are so loved.